When it comes to conflict, do you tend to enjoy it or avoid it?
What conflict are you in the middle of enjoying or avoiding?
How is conflict managed in your workplace? How does it impact the climate of the office?
Solomon tells us that if we focus on loyalty and kindness, we will find favor with both God and people. Below are ideas of ways to incorporate loyalty and kindness in conflict. Mark the statements that resonate with you and discuss with the group.
_____ Providing feedback because I want the best for someone.
_____ Not minimizing or ignoring my feelings in an effort to maintain harmony.
_____ Providing uninvited caution or counsel with a pure motive.
_____ Being proactive in addressing concerns rather than waiting for the other person to initiate.
_____ Choosing to trust as opposed to being suspicious.
_____ Prioritizing the other person’s feelings over your own.
_____ Listening first before jumping in with my own opinion.
_____ Validating the other person’s feelings and showing empathy.
_____ Considering the possible external factors for why the person thinks/feels like she does.
_____ Considering my body language and attitude while I address conflict.
_____ Being approachable.
In the message, Jeff describes the Fundamental Attribution Error (FAE). Put simply, the FAE is when two people wrongly assume each other’s motive. What are some ways you can avoid the FAE as it relates to the conflict you noted in question two?